SEPTEMBER 18th ,2016
By LANA CARBON & JOHN LILIES
[John] This article is a fair bit later than we had originally intended to post it, however the last few months were a bit harry, and we decided “better late than never”.
[Lana] For Mother’s Day weekend 2016, John and I wanted to do something special for our mothers. We decided that we would spend Saturday with Ma Carbon and Sunday would be dedicated to Ma Lilies. First, we needed gifts. John, an amazingly creative person, crafted some beautiful Inukshuks out of some stones that we had on hand for just such an occasion.
John wanted me to stress that these photos were taken while the art was still in progress.
[John] I had only recently made my first Inukshuk, for a dear friend in Germany, and that felt like a big risk but was such a personal statement referring to his visit with us in 2015, that it was also very important to do. For Mother’s Day, this still felt like an experiment for me and I was terrified that the outcome may not be fit for the mommies. After much convincing from Lana, I decided to take another risk and after some days of letting them dry, carefully packaged them up and prepped them for their new homes.
[Lana] We always try to make our gifts when given the opportunity; we enjoy the creative outlet and also feel that homemade gifts are more meaningful than their store-bought counter parts. With a framework of an idea in place, we set out Friday night so that we would be in the company of Ma Carbon before Saturday morning, and the festivities could then begin bright and early.
[Lana] Now, to set some context, my mother rarely (if ever), lets anyone do anything for her regarding meals. Perhaps, in the later years, we might be allowed to set the table. When I was growing up, I was often shooed out of the kitchen as meals were being prepared. After my first job as a short order cook in my teenage years, I was allowed to assist with a few breakfasts now and again but so seldom were these chances they were nearly non-existent.
So this Mother’s Day, I knew that one of the things I wanted us to do for Ma Carbon was to get (and when I say get, I mean force) her to sit and let us do the cooking. Brunch went off without a hitch. We were able to have Ma sit at the table and allow us to complete the whole meal. It may not sound like much but it was a wonderful feeling to be able to give back to her for a change.
[John] It really did take a lot of convincing to have Ma Carbon stay seated and not take over. Ma sat at the kitchen table while we worked and we made sure to do things just as she wanted. Ma finally had to pick up some shop flyers to peruse, to keep busy at the table (thank you Brother Carbon, for putting the flyers in front of her!). I was very proud of Ma.
[Lana] We weren’t so lucky when it came to suppertime. Ma had chosen a roast chicken with dressing and all the fixings, so we were excited to prepare everything and make this fantastic meal for her. We prepped the veggies and dressing, cleaned the bird and placed it in the oven. That gave us over an hour of visiting time before we had any more prep work to do. My sister had arrived by then and we were looking forward to some quality time with everyone.
One thing led to another and I began helping my brother create a birthday gift for our niece. As I was working on it, sneaky Ma Carbon slipped away and finished preparing our meal. John did try to wiggle her way in to help out but my brother and sister were in there already. So, it didn’t work out exactly as we planned but at least Ma Carbon didn’t do everything herself; and we did manage to take care of breakfast. It was a wonderful day being able to spend that quality time with her.
The following day was our time to spend with Ma Lilies. We started out without any finalized plans, knowing only that we were going to go for brunch somewhere, pick up John’s “Bonus Mommy” and then head for a drive. John had the idea of going to this wonderful restaurant called the Olympia Grill. As we approached and saw the full parking lot and the line up outside of the building, we thought there might be better options somewhere else. John then thought of Turtle Jack’s, which should be opening in only a few moments.
[John] Brunch plans quickly switched to early lunch plans as none of us had really thought out the restaurant plans very well, thus had not made reservations anywhere.
[Lana] If we were lucky, we would be able to get a table before it became too busy…and lucky we were. Not only did we get a table and excellent food but Ma Lilies and John received gift cards for future visits as a Mother’s Day promotional offer.
[John] Ma Lilies ended up using her gift card just a few weeks later, going out with her best friend, the Bonus Mommy, for a nice dinner.
[Lana] We then set out to fulfill another request of Ma Lilies’. We headed to the cemetery to place some flowers to pay homage to her mother.
[John] Usually for Mother’s Day, I include a visit to the graves of my grandmother (in one cemetery), my aunt (a second cemetery) and also a dear friend of mine (buried just a few strides away from my aunt). When Ma asked if we could make sure to do this together this year, I had no hesitation. We picked up flowers for each gravesite and set out for our visits. Tough though they may be, Ma & I are very attached to these visits and are grateful for having relatively easy access to these sites. I hadn’t been to my grandmother’s gravesite with Ma Lilies for quite some time and it was nice to share that moment with her on this special day. We also hadn’t gone together to her sister’s gravesite in a long time and she had never seen my friend’s site, so this really was an important moment for us.
[Lana] From there, we picked up the “Bonus Mommy” and set our sights on a back roads journey to the Elora Gorge (the destination we agreed on in the “north-westerly direction”).
[John] When the four of us settled in the car, all we knew was that we wanted to go for a drive but none of us could decide on a specific place, so I asked in which direction the mommies wanted to head and “northwest somewhere sounds good” was the answer.
[Lana] The countryside was gorgeous, the farmhouses were beautiful and the conversation hilariously engaging. We only stopped in a town long enough to grab a coffee before continuing on our way.
By the time we reached Elora, most of the businesses had closed up shop for the evening so we decided to take a quick stroll by the Gorge. We didn’t stay long but what we did manage to see was magical.
We thought we might grab a bite to eat at the local pub. John and I remembered it had pretty decent food. What we didn’t remember was the number of stairs to get down to the dining area. Not wanting to put the mommies through that, we decided that we would try another venue.
We took a leisurely drive heading in the direction of home. We reached Guelph and knew we would find somewhere to stop for supper. Now it was just a matter of choosing what type of food we wanted. Ma Lilies noticed a Boston Pizza and decided that would do the trick. It was a… shall we say…interesting experience.
[John] By the time we were getting into Guelph we were all hungry and I think that we were at risk of spending time driving around in circles trying to decide what to have and where to go (which only leads to the hangry and as Lana has mentioned in posts past… we all try to avoid the hangry digging its claws into me). I do not blame Ma at all for quickly saying, “That’s what it will be!” when she saw Boston Pizza as an early and easy option.
[Lana] I don’t know what it is about going to Elora but every time we go there, we crave an éclair when we make our way home. This time we had learned from our prior experience that we should seek out a Country Style. Wouldn’t you know it, the first one we went to had no éclairs left. “What is going on?” I thought to myself. But I didn’t get worried… not really. The mommies were both excited to have a treat by this time and as devoted to the éclair idea as we were. John and I both knew the Country Style not far from us ALWAYS had éclairs no matter what time it was; they wouldn’t let us down. We pulled into the parking lot and I rushed over to the window where you could see the full display of sugary goodness and… no éclairs.
The mommies insisted we still go in and get something; so we went inside and ordered our hot beverages and desserts of a non-éclair variety, before returning the mommies to the “Bonus Mommy’s” home where we enjoyed our last treats of an exciting day.
[John] Hanging out at the Bonus Mommy’s apartment, enjoying tea, coffee and treats has really become a lovely and comforting time for us. While Ma lives some hours away, the Bonus Mommy is not far at all and it always feels nice to get cozy in her apartment (often with a hockey game playing on the TV in the background) after a long day. This was quite a nice way to end a great day with the mommies and Lana and I could not have been happier that we managed to have quality time with all three mommies in one short weekend.
[Lana] We would really like to thank our Mothers and those wonderful people in our lives that we consider our Bonus Mothers, on this day dedicated specifically for you. We do hope you know that the love we have for you is not reserved for just this day and that we love you all year long.
